Young Adult Ministry Best Practices
Four Key Areas: Attraction, Programming, Spiritual Formation, Community
Research Date: February 2026 Target Demographic: Singles and Young Married Couples (ages 22-32) Church Context: Evangelical/non-denominational, mid-size churches (500-2,000 members)
How to Use This Document
This is a comprehensive reference guide covering best practices across all aspects of young adult ministry. At 7,400+ words across four major sections, it is not intended to be read start-to-finish during initial planning.
Recommended usage:
- For initial planning: Read the Executive Summary below, then focus on specific sections relevant to immediate decisions
- As ongoing resource: Refer to specific sections when planning programs, outreach strategies, or addressing challenges
- For training: Use sections to train volunteer leaders in their specific areas of responsibility
The four major sections can be read independently based on your current needs.
Relationship to other research documents: This guide synthesizes findings from Doc 05 (national young adult research), Doc 06 (church case studies), and Doc 07 (ministry models) into an implementation-oriented format organized by ministry function. Use those documents for underlying research and citations; use this document for practical “how-to” guidance when building programming.
Executive Summary
This document synthesizes best practices from successful young adult ministries across four critical areas:
- Attraction & Outreach - reaching unchurched young adults
- Programming & Structure - what works in gatherings and events
- Spiritual Formation & Discipleship - helping young adults grow spiritually
- Community & Belonging - building authentic relationships
Key Principle: Young adults don’t need more programs—they need empowerment, authentic community, and faith that intersects with real life.
PART 1: ATTRACTION & OUTREACH
Current Landscape: Young Adults and Church
The Good News
Young Adults Are Returning to Church:
- Gen Z churchgoers now average 1.9 weekends per month (up from ~1 in 2020)
- Millennials average 1.8 weekends per month
- 39% of Millennials attend weekly, surpassing Gen X and Boomers
- Young adults driving church attendance resurgence
Why They’re Coming:
- Seeking belonging and community (loneliness epidemic)
- Spiritual curiosity and questions about meaning
- Desire for authenticity and purpose
- Looking for something beyond themselves
The Challenge
Why They’re NOT Coming:
- Relevance gap: Church doesn’t address lived experience
- Authenticity concerns: Skeptical of manufactured experiences
- Institutional skepticism: Open spiritually but wary of institutions
- Church effectiveness crisis: 99% of pastors admit not “very effective” at reaching unchurched
- Still attend less than half the time (1.9 weekends/month)
Critical Barriers:
- Church doesn’t engage topics they care about (mental health, justice, doubt, identity)
- Feel judged for questions or struggles
- Don’t see themselves represented in leadership
- Perception that church is for families, not singles/young couples
- Production-driven services feel inauthentic
Digital First Contact (Before They Ever Visit)
Why Digital Matters
- 80% of new visitors check church’s website before attending
- Social media is primary discovery platform for Gen Z and Millennials
- Digital presence signals whether church is alive and relevant
- Online community sustains midweek connection
Social Media Strategy
Platform Priority:
- Instagram: 78% of 18-29 year-olds use it—primary platform
- YouTube: 92% use it—excellent for sermon clips and testimony videos
- TikTok: Growing among Gen Z for short content
- Facebook: Secondary, but still useful for events and groups
Content Strategy:
- Authenticity over polish: Behind-the-scenes, real moments, honest struggles
- Short-form video: 5-10 minute videos (82% of Gen Z/Millennials prefer this)
- User-generated content: Young adults sharing their stories, not just pastor
- Real testimonies: Actual life change, not marketing speak
- Show, don’t tell: Demonstrate what young adults contribute, not just what’s offered
Engagement:
- Respond to comments/messages within 24 hours
- Ask questions, create dialogue (not just broadcast)
- Share relatable content: humor, struggles, wins
- Tag and celebrate young adults in your church
What to Avoid:
- Over-produced, corporate content
- Desperate tone (“Please come to church!“)
- Only posting event promotions
- Ignoring comments or questions
- Inconsistency (posting randomly vs. regular rhythm)
Website Essentials
What Young Adults Look For:
- Clear information: service times, location, what to expect
- Who you are: mission, values, beliefs (but not overly formal)
- Real people: photos of actual congregation, not stock images
- Young adult ministry info: easy to find, clear next steps
- How to connect: obvious buttons for “I’m new” or “Connect with young adults”
Red Flags That Drive Young Adults Away:
- Outdated website (signals church is out of touch)
- No information about young adults (signals they’re not priority)
- Only families/children in photos (singles feel invisible)
- Insider language and churchy jargon
- Complicated navigation or unclear information
Physical Environment and First Impressions
Spaces That Welcome Young Adults
What Gen Z and Millennials Value:
- Authenticity over production: Don’t need concert-level production; prefer genuine worship
- Natural light and nature: Connection to outdoors for emotional well-being
- Comfortable spaces: Invite conversation and questions, not auditorium-style rigidity
- Simplicity and decluttering: Peace without overstimulation
- Flexible, multipurpose spaces: Signal adaptability and casualness
What Turns Them Off:
- Over-produced “show” that feels like performance, not worship
- Institutional, sterile environments
- No comfortable spaces to linger and connect
- Everything perfectly curated (feels inauthentic)
Welcoming Young Adults on First Visit
The Greeter Ministry:
- 91% of churches have greeters, but effectiveness varies widely
- Best greeters: Spot new people rather than chat with friends
- Warm welcome without overwhelming: “Hi, welcome! Is this your first time?”
- Point to: restrooms, coffee, where to sit, what to expect
- Don’t: Force visitor card, hover awkwardly, drag to meet pastor
Reduce First-Timer Anxiety:
- Designated first-time guest area (optional stop, not forced)
- Clear signage for parking, entrances, restrooms, kids check-in
- Background music eliminates awkward silence before service
- Bulletin or slide explaining what happens during service
- Someone available to answer questions without being pushy
For Those With Kids:
- Efficient check-in system signals professionalism and safety
- Clean, safe kids’ spaces are non-negotiable for young families
- Parents’ first question: “Is my kid safe and cared for?”
Follow-Up:
- Personal text or email within 24-48 hours (not generic)
- Invitation to young adult gathering or event
- Offer to connect with someone their age
- Don’t: Show up at their house unannounced, add to mailing list without permission
Outreach Strategies That Actually Work
1. Relational Evangelism (Most Effective)
Why It Works:
- Young adults come because someone they trust invited them
- Personal invitation carries more weight than advertising
- Relationship provides context and safety for first visit
How to Facilitate:
- Equip current young adults to invite friends
- Teach them how to invite naturally (not “get people to church” pressure)
- Provide preview events designed for bringing friends
- Celebrate stories of young adults inviting friends
- Remove barriers: “What if my friend has questions?” “What if they’re not a Christian?”
Avoid:
- Institutional evangelism disguised as hospitality (feels desperate)
- Pressure tactics or guilt trips
- Making young adults feel like recruitment tools
- Bait-and-switch invitations (social event that becomes evangelistic talk)
2. Hire Young and “Index Down in Age”
Why It Matters:
- When young adults see staff in their 20s, they recognize “this is a place where young people contribute”
- Representation signals priority
- Young staff understand young adult culture and challenges
- Credibility with peers
Practical Application:
- If hiring young adult ministry leader, consider someone in their 20s
- Include young adults in other staff roles (worship, tech, kids, admin)
- Even if can’t hire staff, recruit young adult volunteers visibly
- Give young adults leadership in main services, not just young adult ministry
3. Entry Points and On-Ramps
Lower Barriers to Entry:
- One-time events easier than year-long commitments
- Short-term series (4-6 weeks) vs. open-ended groups
- Service projects appeal more than passive attendance
- Social events create natural connection points
Examples:
- “Try us for 4 weeks” series on relevant topic
- Weekend service project (one Saturday, no ongoing commitment)
- Social event: game night, sports, dinner, concert
- Workshop on practical topic: finances, relationships, career
Hybrid Options:
- In-person + digital accommodates busy schedules
- Watch online first, come in-person later (or vice versa)
- Digital community group for those who can’t attend in person
4. Marketing and Invitation Strategy
What Works:
- Clear over clever: Simple, direct communication
- Consistency: Regular presence builds familiarity and trust
- Real stories: Authentic testimonies, not marketing speak
- Show contribution: Highlight what young adults are DOING, not just what’s offered TO them
- Relational touchpoints: Personal invitation > mailer > social media ad
Target Areas for BRCC:
- Hyper-local: McCordsville, New Palestine, Cumberland, Fortville (5-mile radius)
- Digital targeting: Facebook/Instagram ads to 22-32 year-olds in southern Hancock County
- Workplace connections: Indianapolis commuters
- Housing developments: New residents to area
What Doesn’t Work:
- Generic mass marketing
- Desperate or pushy tone
- Only focusing on what church offers (consumer mentality)
- Inconsistent or sporadic communication
Suburban Context Challenges and Solutions
Unique Challenges
Geographic Spread:
- People don’t live close together
- Requires cars to connect (no walkability)
- Longer travel times reduce attendance (68% of churchgoers travel <15 minutes)
Commuter Dynamics:
- Many young adults work in Indianapolis (30-40 minute commute)
- 6:30am-6:30pm workdays limit weeknight availability
- Tired after long commute, less likely to return for evening events
Family-Oriented Culture:
- Suburbs favor young families over singles
- Singles may feel out of place in family-centric environment
- Couples without kids feel between categories
Fewer “Third Places”:
- Suburbs lack coffee shops, pubs, community gathering spots
- Less spontaneous interaction than urban areas
- Requires more intentional connection
Solutions for BRCC
Geographic:
- Cast wider net: Market to all southern Hancock County + eastern Indianapolis
- Offer carpooling or rideshare coordination
- Rotate locations occasionally (McCordsville, New Palestine)
- Strong digital presence for midweek connection
Timing:
- Sunday afternoon/evening gatherings may work better than weeknights
- Thursday nights (if doing weeknight) seem most successful nationally
- Saturday events for service projects and social gatherings
- Hybrid options for those who can’t attend in person
Community:
- Intentionally structure community-building (won’t happen organically in suburbs)
- Multiple connection points beyond one weekly event
- Help singles/couples find each other (small groups by geography)
- Create “third places” yourself: coffee shop meetups, homes, church spaces
Partnership:
- Consider partnering with nearby evangelical churches for critical mass
- Awaken model (Indianapolis): collaborative young adult ministry
- Share resources, events, and outreach with other churches
Common Outreach Mistakes to Avoid
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Treating Young Adults Like Youth Group
- Don’t infantilize or condescend
- They’re adults with careers, homes, responsibilities
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Over-Reliance on Advertising
- Relationships > marketing
- Personal invitation > slick campaign
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Ignoring Digital Presence
- Young adults check online first
- No social media = nonexistent to Gen Z
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Being Inauthentic
- Manufactured experiences backfire
- Gen Z has finely tuned authenticity radar
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Only Offering What’s Needed
- Don’t just meet needs—empower contribution
- “What we offer you” < “What we’ll do together”
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Demographic Panic
- Desperation to fill pews feels institutional
- Focus on genuine welcome, not metrics
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Ignoring Barriers
- Insider language, confusing processes
- “Everyone knows what we mean” (but new people don’t)
PART 2: PROGRAMMING & STRUCTURE
The Critical Decision: Singles Ministry vs. Integrated Young Adult Ministry
For the full theological and strategic analysis of the integrated approach — including biblical foundation, demographic data, and comparison to alternatives — see 09 Integrated Ministry Analysis.
Singles Ministry (Separate)
Pros:
- Communicates “We see you” to singles
- Addresses unique discipleship needs (singleness theology, loneliness, dating)
- Safe space with peers in same life stage
- Combats loneliness (1/3 of 18-34 year-olds struggle with isolation)
- Funded/staffed singles ministry demonstrates priority
Cons:
- Perpetual revolving door: People leave when they partner up, destabilizing community
- Over-labeling limits interaction between singles and married people
- Risk of becoming dating-focused despite intentions
- Can communicate singles are “less than” married people
- Requires constant recruitment to maintain critical mass
- Harder to sustain in suburban contexts (lower singles density)
Integrated Young Adult Ministry (Singles + Young Marrieds Together)
Pros:
- Singles interact with married couples regularly
- Prevents revolving door—people stay through life transitions
- Young marrieds without kids often have more in common with singles than young families
- Cross-life-stage friendships and mentoring
- More sustainable long-term
- Doesn’t depend on maintaining critical mass of singles alone
Cons:
- Singles may feel their unique needs aren’t addressed
- Can default to marriage/family focus, marginalizing singles
- Some topics harder to discuss in mixed groups
- Singles may feel awkward around couples
RECOMMENDED APPROACH: Hybrid Model
Primary Structure:
- Integrated young adult ministry (ages 22-32) for singles AND young married couples without children
- Position as ministry for “young adults navigating career, relationships, identity, purpose”
- Everyone welcome regardless of relationship status
Within This:
- Targeted affinity groups for singles-specific topics
- Small groups can be singles-only or mixed based on preference
- Large gatherings always integrated
- Ensure singles have voice in leadership to prevent marriage bias
Why This Works:
- Flexibility to adjust emphasis based on who responds
- Sustainability through life transitions
- Avoids over-segmentation while addressing unique needs
- Better fit for suburban context (young marrieds more accessible initially)
- Network effects: young marrieds have single friends they can invite
Critical Quote from Research: “Churches need to address people’s felt needs while enabling them to experience community, and then hopefully lead them to see the church is bigger than just a specialized department, but it’s a multigenerational body.”
Meeting Frequency and Structure
Weekly vs. Monthly vs. Bi-Weekly
WEEKLY GATHERINGS (Recommended):
Pros:
- Builds consistency and habit formation
- Creates trust through regular rhythms
- Enables deeper discipleship
- Critical mass easier to maintain
- “Home” feeling develops
Examples:
- The Porch (Dallas): Weekly Tuesday, 3,500 attendance
- Mariners Church: Moved to weekly, attendance DOUBLED to 1,000+
Best For:
- Churches committed to young adult ministry as priority
- Staff or volunteer bandwidth to support weekly gathering
- Urban or denser suburban contexts
MONTHLY GATHERINGS:
Pros:
- Lower commitment barrier
- Works for busy schedules
- Good for large-scale events
- Post-service Sunday gatherings can attract more attendance
Cons:
- Harder to build momentum and community
- People forget or lose connection between meetings
- Less habit formation
Best For:
- Small churches building toward weekly
- Supplement to weekly small groups
- Large social/outreach events
BI-WEEKLY GATHERINGS:
Cons:
- AVOID THIS: Even leaders forget which week is on/off
- Confusion reduces attendance
- Doesn’t build rhythm effectively
Best Practice for BRCC:
- Start with monthly large gathering (year 1) to build core
- Add weekly small groups when 15-25 committed core established
- Move to weekly large gathering when attendance sustains 30-50
Programming Models
07 Ministry Models & Programming, Part 2 provides detailed structural models (Monthly Large + Weekly Small, Weekly Only, Small Groups Only, Integration, Partnership) with pros, cons, and resource requirements for each. The models below highlight named church examples and frameworks that illustrate different programming philosophies.
The Porch (Watermark Church, Dallas) — Weekly Tuesday evening, 3,500+ attendance. Consistency builds community; quality teaching relevant to 20s/30s challenges. Integration with whole church (funnel INTO Watermark). Transferable principle: weekly rhythm matters more than scale.
Integrated Model (Mariners Church, Irvine) — Weekly Thursday evening, college through 30s, all relationship statuses together. Attendance doubled to 1,000+ when they moved to this integrated model. Transferable principle: simplicity enables focus.
Purpose-Driven Model — Each gathering intentionally addresses 5 purposes: fellowship, discipleship, ministry, evangelism, worship. Provides a holistic planning framework rather than a single event format.
Interest-Based Affinity Groups — Form around specific topics or interests (career, marriage, singleness, creative arts, service/justice). Lower barrier than generic “young adult group.” Can be short-term (4-6 weeks) or ongoing.
Small Groups: The Discipleship Engine
Why Small Groups Matter
What They Provide:
- Authenticity and depth (can’t happen in large group)
- Accountability and spiritual growth
- Life-on-life relationships
- Safe space for questions and struggles
- Consistent community that large events can’t provide
The Math:
- Growing ministries combine large events (attract numbers) + small groups (provide depth)
- Singles like large groups (relational possibilities) AND small groups (authenticity)
- Large groups are front door; small groups are living room
Small Group Best Practices
Size:
- 4-6 people for leadership stability
- 8-12 people for group dynamics
- Multiply when reaching 12+ (don’t let grow too large)
Format Options:
- Bible study + prayer + life sharing
- Book discussion + application
- Topical series addressing felt needs
- Hybrid: structured content + informal social time
Leadership:
- Don’t depend only on young adults to lead (instability is biggest barrier)
- Recruit established adults (30s-40s) to lead/co-lead
- Train in group dynamics, biblical teaching, pastoral care
- Leadership teams of 4-6 provide stability when one person is absent
Meeting Details:
- Weekly or bi-weekly (consistency matters)
- Homes, church, coffee shops, or virtual
- Same time/place creates rhythm
- Yearly calendar outlining dates and special events
Content:
- Purpose-Driven model: integrate fellowship, discipleship, ministry, evangelism, worship
- Life stage-relevant topics: finances, relationships, career, identity, purpose
- Biblical depth, not shallow “share and prayer”
- Open discussion, not lecture
Singles-Specific Groups (Within Integrated Ministry)
Topics:
- Biblical theology of singleness
- Navigating loneliness and isolation
- Contentment in current season
- Dating and relationships from Christian perspective
- Sexual purity and boundaries
- Finding purpose and calling
- Financial management as single person
Avoid:
- Positioning as dating service
- Only focusing on “finding the one”
- Making singles feel “less than” married people
- Ignoring singles who don’t want to be married
Event Types and Timing
For a detailed catalog of programming ideas across spiritual formation, social connection, service/mission, life stage support, and creative/experiential categories, see 07 Ministry Models & Programming, Part 3.
Timing Considerations for BRCC (Suburban Context)
Weeknight Challenges:
- Long commutes (Indianapolis to Hancock County)
- 6:30am-6:30pm workdays
- Tired after commute
Better Options:
- Sunday post-service gatherings (already at church)
- Thursday evenings (if doing weeknight—most successful nationally)
- Saturday daytime events (service projects, social activities)
- Hybrid in-person + digital accommodates schedules
Integration with Main Church
Critical Principle
Young adult ministry must fall under church’s umbrella and spiritual covering, aligned with church vision. It exists as funnel INTO church, not separate entity.
How to Avoid “Church Within a Church”
Vision Alignment:
- Young adult leaders carry and cast BRCC’s vision
- Young adult ministry flows from church’s mission
- Regular communication with senior leadership
- Young adults understand they’re part of something bigger
Service Integration:
- Encourage young adults to serve in other church ministries:
- Nursery and children’s ministry
- Youth ministry
- Worship teams
- Hospitality and greeting
- Tech and media
- Service projects
Whole-Church Participation:
- Young adults attend main services (not just young adult gatherings)
- Participate in church-wide events
- Represented in church leadership (boards, committees)
- Celebrated and highlighted in main services
Leadership Structure:
- Young adult ministry leader reports to senior pastor or executive pastor
- Budget comes from church budget, not separate fundraising
- Young adult ministry fits within church’s organizational structure
- Accountability and oversight from church leadership
Don’t Copy Youth Ministry Template
Why Youth Ministry Model Doesn’t Work:
- Creates “sub-adult” category
- Focuses on entertainment over empowerment
- Keeps young adults dependent, not contributing
- Segregates from rest of church
Instead:
- Treat young adults as full participants in church
- Give real leadership and responsibility
- Integrate into whole church life
- Empower contribution, not just consumption
Physical Spaces and Environment
What Gen Z and Millennials Value
Authenticity Over Production:
- Don’t need concert-level production (can be off-putting)
- Genuine worship over performance
- Simple and authentic > slick and polished
Comfortable Conversation Spaces:
- Seating that encourages interaction (couches, chairs, circles)
- Not auditorium-style rows
- Room to linger before/after gathering
- Coffee and snacks create hospitable environment
Natural Elements:
- Natural light for emotional well-being
- Plants and outdoor connection
- Less institutional, more home-like
Flexibility:
- Multipurpose spaces signal adaptability
- Can reconfigure for different activities
- Not locked into formal setup
Simplicity:
- Decluttered spaces create peace
- Not overstimulating or overwhelming
- Focus on what matters, remove distractions
What BRCC Can Provide
Leverage Existing Spaces:
- Comfortable gathering area (fellowship hall, café area, lounge)
- Small group rooms for intimacy
- Outdoor spaces when weather permits
- Homes of church members for small groups
Create Young Adult Space:
- Designate area as “young adult hub”
- Comfortable seating, coffee/tea available
- Welcoming decor that reflects young adult culture
- Not a separate building—integrated into church
Common Programming Mistakes
07 Ministry Models & Programming, Part 4 provides detailed analysis of common pitfalls including under-resourcing, creating silos, treating ministry like youth group, trying too hard to be cool, copying without contextualizing, misplaced expectations, lack of consistency, over-programming, and unclear next steps. See that document for the full treatment with “What This Looks Like,” “Why It Fails,” and “How to Avoid” for each.
PART 3: SPIRITUAL FORMATION & DISCIPLESHIP
Shifting the Metric
Wrong Question: “How many showed up?” Right Question: “How many are becoming lifelong followers of Jesus?”
Young adult ministry success isn’t measured by attendance but by spiritual transformation. Are we making disciples who will follow Jesus for life?
Effective Discipleship Models
1. Character-Forming Discipleship
Core Elements:
- Cultivate Trust: Safe relationships where young adults can be honest
- Model Faith: Leaders who authentically follow Jesus, not perfect people
- Teach for Transformation: Not just information, but life change
- Practice Together: Learn by doing, not just hearing
- Make Meaning: Help young adults connect faith to daily life
Why It Works:
- Harnesses power of relationships
- Transformation > information
- Discipleship is caught, not just taught
- Addresses whole person (mind, heart, actions)
2. Mentoring and Intergenerational Relationships
The Need:
- Only 19% of Christians say their church offers intergenerational ministry
- Yet 2/3 of Americans have close friends 15+ years older/younger
- Desire for cross-generational relationships is strong
What Young Adults Want:
- Mentors who walk alongside them, not charismatic pastors preaching at them
- Humble, vulnerable leaders (not “all the answers” types)
- People who understand their challenges
- Authenticity, belonging, compassion
Best Practices:
- Formal mentorship programs + organic relationship development
- Bidirectional mentoring: Younger mentoring older (tech, culture), not just opposite
- Mentorship as collective responsibility, not just pastors
- Generation Spark model: connects 16-24 year-olds with spiritual mentors
Impact:
- Intergenerational relationships significantly impact long-term faith retention
- Combat loneliness and isolation
- Provide wisdom and perspective
- Create sense of belonging in church family
3. Small Group Discipleship
Cell Group Model:
- Intimate, relational approach
- Peer-led spiritual growth
- Life-on-life community through challenges
One-to-One Mentoring:
- Globally proven model
- Transparency, accountability, life-change
- Individual attention and tailored discipleship
4. Holistic Discipleship
Integrated Approach:
- Spiritual: Prayer, Bible study, worship
- Emotional: Mental health, processing emotions, self-awareness
- Physical: Self-care, health, stewardship of body
- Relational: Friendships, dating, family, conflict
- Vocational: Career, calling, purpose, work-life balance
- Financial: Stewardship, budgeting, generosity
Why It Matters:
- Young adults face complex challenges requiring whole-person approach
- Faith must intersect with real life, not just Sunday mornings
- Discipleship that only addresses spiritual ignores reality
Addressing Doubts, Questions, and Deconstruction
Understanding Deconstruction
What It Is:
- Process of reevaluating religious beliefs from critical perspective
- Questions spiritual authority, beliefs, traditions, institutions
- Can be spiritual journey to release what’s contrary to God’s heart, embrace truth
- Not necessarily abandonment of faith—can strengthen faith
Why It’s Happening:
- Intellectual/Theological Questions: “Does this make sense? Is it true?”
- Moral Concerns: Church’s stances on justice, sexuality, politics, environment
- Personal Hurt: Wounded by church, Christians, or leaders
- Cultural Shifts: Society’s values vs. church’s teaching
- Authenticity Seeking: Desire for genuine faith, not inherited or performative
How to Respond
1. Create Safe Space
- Non-judgmental environment where doubts are welcome
- “No question is off-limits” culture
- Leaders who share their own struggles and questions
- Assurance that doubting doesn’t equal losing faith
2. Model Authenticity
- Humble, vulnerable leaders easier to follow than “all the answers” leaders
- Share your own journey: doubts, questions, how you wrestled
- Avoid trite answers to deep questions
- “I don’t know” is valid response
3. Acknowledge Church Failures
- Discuss church’s shortcomings openly
- Distinguish between Christ’s call and human failings
- Own mistakes and injustices committed by church
- Repentance and humility, not defensiveness
4. Encourage Healthy Questioning
- Don’t discourage questioning Bible—encourage discovering depth themselves
- Teach them to read Scripture well (context, genre, interpretation)
- Provide resources: books, podcasts, articles engaging tough questions
- Safe discussion spaces: small groups, Q&A nights, office hours with leaders
5. Empathize
- Understand their experiences without judgment
- Listen more than talk
- Validate their pain or confusion
- Walk with them, not lecture at them
6. Address Real Issues
- Engage topics that matter: mental health, doubt, identity, purpose, justice
- Don’t avoid “hot topics” (politics, sexuality, suffering, science)
- Biblical engagement with difficult issues
- Nuance and complexity, not simplistic answers
Encouraging Sign: Bible engagement among Gen Z and Millennials has risen significantly—10 million more adults now read Scripture outside church (2025). Young adults are hungry for depth.
Building Biblical Literacy and Theological Depth
Current Challenge
What We’re Facing:
- Millennials described as “memory-less” about basic Christian tenets as teenagers
- Gen Z knows even less
- Skepticism toward all authority (including biblical) makes engagement challenging
- Cultural Christianity (inherited faith) declining
Effective Approaches
1. Big Picture Narrative
- Young generations familiar with long narrative arcs (Marvel, Star Wars, LOTR)
- Don’t underestimate power of whole biblical story
- Creation → Fall → Redemption → Restoration
- Show how individual stories fit into grand narrative
- Hearing God’s full story produces profound understanding
2. Four Knowledge Areas Young Adults Need
Basic Bible Knowledge:
- Overview of Old and New Testaments
- Key stories, characters, themes
- How to read Bible for spiritual fulfillment (not just information)
- Bible study methods and tools
Church Traditions and Worship:
- Why we do what we do (liturgy, sacraments, practices)
- Church history and how we got here
- Meaning behind worship elements
Basic Theology:
- Core Christian beliefs (Trinity, Incarnation, Atonement, Resurrection)
- How to apply theology to everyday life
- Theological frameworks for decision-making
Prayer and Spiritual Practices:
- How to pray (beyond “bless the food”)
- Spiritual disciplines: solitude, fasting, meditation, service
- Contemplative practices and listening to God
3. Relevant Application
- Connect biblical truth to lived experience
- Not abstract theology divorced from real life
- “So what?” question: How does this change how I live Monday-Saturday?
- Case studies and scenarios applying Scripture
4. Safe Discussion
- Allow questions without judgment
- Socratic method: ask questions, guide discovery
- Small groups where everyone participates (not lecture)
- Wrestle with difficult passages together
5. Modeling Biblical Engagement
- Leaders who visibly love and study Scripture
- Share what you’re learning from Bible
- Demonstrate how Scripture shapes decisions
- Not just preachers quoting Bible, but practitioners living it
Life Stage-Specific Spiritual Challenges
Singles (18-30)
Unique Challenges:
- Loneliness and Isolation: Over 1/3 struggle with this
- Identity Apart from Relationships: “Who am I if I’m not someone’s spouse/parent?”
- Purpose and Calling: “What am I supposed to do with my life?”
- Sexual Purity and Boundaries: Cultural pressure vs. biblical standards
- Contentment in Current Season: “Am I missing out? Is something wrong with me?”
- Navigating Church Culture: Feeling invisible or “less than” in family-focused church
- Career and Financial Decisions: Making life decisions alone
- Dating Complexity: Christian dating in hookup culture
Discipleship Topics:
- Biblical theology of singleness (gift, calling, season?)
- Jesus and Paul as models of single life
- Contentment: Philippians 4, learning to be content
- Sexual ethics: Why does purity matter?
- Finding purpose outside of marriage and family
- Building community and deep friendships
- Stewardship: finances, time, talents as single person
Young Married Couples Without Children (22-30)
Unique Challenges:
- Marriage Foundations: Learning to “do life” together
- Communication: Conflict resolution, expressing needs
- Financial Management: Budgeting, debt, spending priorities as couple
- Extended Family Dynamics: In-laws, family expectations
- Spiritual Leadership: How to pray together, lead spiritually
- Career Balancing: Two careers, whose takes priority?
- Quality Time: Maintaining romance amid busy schedules
- Preparing for Parenthood: When? How? What if we disagree?
- Individual Identity: Maintaining self while becoming “we”
Discipleship Topics:
- Marriage theology: Genesis 2, Ephesians 5, mutual submission
- Communication and conflict resolution skills
- Financial stewardship as couple: budgeting, tithing, debt management
- Spiritual practices as couple: praying together, serving together
- Love languages and meeting each other’s needs
- Healthy boundaries with extended family
- Preparing for potential parenthood
- Maintaining individual calling within marriage
Shared Challenges Across Both Groups
Career and Vocation:
- “Is this job my calling or just a paycheck?”
- Work-life balance and priorities
- Ethical dilemmas in workplace
- Surviving toxic work environments
Financial Pressures:
- Student debt (average $30K+)
- Housing costs and affordability
- Saving vs. spending vs. giving
- Financial instability and gig economy
Mental Health:
- Anxiety and depression (epidemic levels)
- Stress management
- Therapy and Christian faith (compatible? necessary?)
- Self-care without self-centeredness
Identity and Purpose:
- “Who am I and why am I here?”
- Discerning calling and vocation
- Delayed adulthood markers (career, marriage, homeownership)
- Comparison and social media pressure
Doubt and Deconstruction:
- Questions about faith inherited from parents
- Wrestling with church’s political/social stances
- Science and faith compatibility
- Suffering and God’s goodness
Technology and Social Media:
- Comparison and FOMO
- Healthy boundaries with devices
- Online vs. in-person community
- Digital sabbath and rest
Discipleship Pathway
Clear Steps from New to Leader:
Stage 1: ATTEND
- Come to large gatherings
- Get connected to church
- Learn who we are and what we believe
Stage 2: CONNECT
- Join small group
- Build relationships
- Begin regular spiritual practices
Stage 3: GROW
- Consistent Bible study and prayer
- Mentoring relationship
- Address sin patterns and discipleship needs
Stage 4: SERVE
- Use gifts to serve church and community
- Find place of meaningful contribution
- Discover calling and vocation
Stage 5: LEAD
- Lead small group or ministry team
- Mentor others
- Multiply disciples
Stage 6: MULTIPLY
- Launch new small group or ministry
- Train other leaders
- Reproduce disciples who make disciples
PART 4: COMMUNITY & BELONGING
The Loneliness Crisis
The Problem
Statistics:
- Over 1/3 of people ages 18-34 struggle with feelings of isolation
- Loneliness linked to depression, high blood pressure, dementia
- Singles particularly vulnerable
- Married people can feel alone too
- Suburban contexts amplify isolation
Why It’s Happening:
- Geographic spread (don’t live near friends/family)
- Digital connection replaces face-to-face
- Transience (young adults move frequently for jobs)
- Busy schedules leave no margin
- Cultural individualism
- Lack of “third places” (coffee shops, pubs, community gathering spots)
Church’s Role
The Problem:
- Many singles feel invisible in churches
- Couples and families socialize together; singles often not invited
- Invitations appear when someone gets a partner, disappear after divorce/widowhood
- Church culture overemphasizing families marginalizes singles
- Young adults slip through cracks between youth group and older adult groups
The Opportunity:
- Church uniquely positioned to provide community
- Gospel creates family across life stages and demographics
- Consistent gatherings combat isolation
- Built-in structure for belonging
What Young Adults Actually Want
Research Findings:
- Feel needed (ownership) and accepted as family
- Place where they can contribute and form lasting friendships
- Sense of purpose
- Authentic, genuine connections (not superficial)
- Belong → Believe → Become (in that order)
What They DON’T Want:
- Being “project” for older adults to fix
- Superficial relationships (small talk only)
- Feeling like consumer of programs
- Being only person their age (but also don’t want pure age segregation)
- Manufactured or forced community
Creating Authentic Community
Programmed vs. Organic Relationships
The Tension:
- Can’t manufacture authentic community through programs alone
- But programs create contexts where organic relationships form
- Both/and, not either/or
Best Practice:
- Use small groups and structured gatherings to create contexts
- Within those contexts, allow organic relationship building
- Don’t over-program; leave space for spontaneous connection
- Coffee breaks, dorm visits, casual hangouts as relational touchpoints
Critical Insight: “Relational communities can exist within organizational systems, but organizational systems can’t exist within flat relational structures.”
Translation: You need some structure to create context for relationships, but structure alone doesn’t create relationships.
”Warm Community” (Growing Young Core Commitment)
Key Elements:
Belonging Cues:
- Visual signals: diverse representation, welcoming spaces
- Verbal signals: “We’re glad you’re here” language
- Physical signals: comfortable spaces, warm greeters
- Relational signals: people introduce themselves, invite to sit with them
Clear Pathways:
- Simple, obvious “next steps” from first visit to full involvement
- Not just “come to small group”—clarity on how to find one, join one
- Eliminate insider language and confusing processes
- Personal follow-up and connection
Consistency:
- Regular rhythms build trust (weekly gatherings, reliable schedules)
- Follow through on commitments
- Clarity beats cleverness in communication
- Show up consistently
Specific Strategies for Building Community
For Singles
Address Loneliness:
- Game nights and dinner gatherings spark friendships
- Small groups build profound relationships through life challenges
- Intentional invitations to holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas for those far from family)
- Regular social events create reliability
Integrate into Broader Church:
- Include singles in church-wide events
- Bridge demographic gaps with intergenerational relationships
- Encourage congregations to invite singles to family gatherings
- Combat invisibility by highlighting singles’ contributions
Create Community with Each Other:
- Small groups for singles addressing unique needs
- Social activities emphasizing friendship (not dating)
- Service projects and mission opportunities
- Online community for midweek connection
Theological Foundation:
- Teach biblical view of singleness (not “less than”)
- Jesus and Paul as models
- Gift/calling/season framework
- Contentment and purpose outside marriage
For Young Married Couples Without Children
Life Stage-Specific Community:
- Bring couples together for discussion, social activities, service
- Topics: finances, quality time, love languages, prayer as couple, communication
- Foster strong marriages and active faith
- Peer support groups—couples in same life stage sharing advice
Prevent Isolation:
- Easy for young marrieds to retreat into couple bubble
- Intentionally maintain friendships (not just couple friends)
- Serve together in church and community
- Stay connected to single friends (don’t abandon them)
Mentoring:
- Connect with older married couples for guidance
- Learn from those ahead in marriage journey
- Pre-marital and newlywed support
For Both Groups
Life-on-Life Relationships:
- Serve together in ministry
- Volunteer teams create natural interaction
- Service projects build bonds while serving others
- Work toward shared mission
Shared Meals:
- Break bread together regularly
- Potlucks, dinner parties, breakfast gatherings
- Food creates hospitality and slows down for conversation
- Biblical model: Jesus often ate with people
Regular “Casual Hangout” Gatherings:
- Not everything needs structure or purpose
- Game nights, movie nights, coffee meetups
- Reliability: same time/place regularly
- Trust builds through consistent presence
Multiple Connection Points:
- Large gatherings: inspiration, teaching, worship
- Small groups: depth, accountability, discipleship
- Social events: fun, friendship, relaxation
- Service projects: mission, purpose, bonding
- Digital community: midweek check-ins, prayer requests, encouragement
Addressing Isolation in Suburban Contexts
Unique Challenges
Geographic Spread:
- People don’t live close together
- Requires intentional effort to connect
- Can’t just “drop by”
Long Commutes:
- Young adults work in Indianapolis, live in Hancock County
- Tired after work, less available for weeknight events
- Limited margin in schedule
Family-Oriented Culture:
- Suburbs built for families (schools, parks, safety)
- Singles may feel out of place
- Fewer “third places” for natural gathering
Lack of Walkability:
- Need cars to get anywhere
- Less spontaneous interaction
- Harder for those without reliable transportation
Solutions for BRCC
Intentional Structure:
- Won’t happen organically—must create opportunities
- Regular, predictable gatherings
- Multiple ways to connect (not just one option)
- Remove barriers to participation
Facilitate Connections:
- Carpooling and shared transportation
- Small groups by geography (meet in homes near each other)
- Help people find others who live near them
- Digital community supplements in-person
Create “Third Places”:
- Designate coffee shop for regular meetups
- Church spaces available for hanging out
- Homes of church members as gathering places
- Outdoor spaces when weather permits
Accommodate Schedules:
- Sunday post-service gatherings (already at church)
- Saturday daytime events (not weeknight when exhausted)
- Hybrid in-person + digital for those who can’t attend physically
- Variety of times to accommodate different schedules
Partner with Other Churches:
- Build critical mass through collaboration
- Awaken model (Indianapolis): multiple churches supporting young adult ministry
- Share resources, events, and outreach
- Reduce duplication and increase effectiveness
The Role of Service and Mission
Why It Matters
Young Adults Want Active Faith:
- Prefer volunteering over passive attendance
- Want to see faith make real impact in world
- Service creates purpose and meaning
- Action-oriented generation
Service Builds Community:
- Working toward shared mission creates bonds
- Side-by-side relationships through serving
- Conversations happen naturally while working
- Sense of accomplishment together
Biblical Mandate:
- James 2: Faith without works is dead
- Matthew 25: Serving “the least of these”
- Micah 6:8: Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly
- Young adults want to live this out
Opportunities for BRCC
Local Service:
- Food pantry volunteering
- Habitat for Humanity builds
- Community clean-up days
- Tutoring or mentoring programs
- Serving homeless or marginalized
Church Service:
- Nursery and children’s ministry
- Youth ministry support
- Hospitality and greeting teams
- Tech and media
- Set-up and tear-down teams
One-Time to One-Year Commitments:
- Lower barrier than lifelong commitment
- Monthly service Saturdays
- Short-term mission trips (1-2 weeks)
- Seasonal serving (summer camps, VBS)
Young Adults Leading:
- Not just participating, but planning and leading
- Empower them to identify needs and organize response
- Ownership creates investment and long-term engagement
Intergenerational Community
The Need
Current Reality:
- Average church age is 45; 1/3 of participants are 65+
- Young adults don’t want to be only person their age
- But they DO want intergenerational interaction
- Isolation of age-segregated church harms everyone
Benefits:
- Younger bring energy, fresh perspective, tech-savvy
- Older bring wisdom, stability, life experience
- Mutual discipleship: teaching and learning both directions
- Combat loneliness for both young and old
- Create church family, not just age-based programs
How to Build It
Don’t Over-Silo:
- Young adult ministry integrated with whole church
- Not separate building, separate service, separate everything
- Young adults in main services and church-wide events
Facilitate Relationships:
- Mentoring programs connecting generations
- Shared meals and fellowship across ages
- Service projects with multi-generational teams
- Small groups mixing ages (not all age-segregated)
Young Adults in Leadership:
- Boards, committees, and decision-making with all ages represented
- Young adults teaching in main services
- Visible in worship leading and serving
- Voice in church direction
Celebrate Diversity:
- Highlight different generations’ contributions
- Stories of cross-generational friendships and mentoring
- Preach and teach on biblical vision of church family
Measuring Success in Community
Wrong Metrics:
- How many people showed up
- How many RSVPs to events
- Social media followers
Right Metrics:
- Are meaningful friendships forming?
- Do young adults feel known and valued?
- Are they inviting friends (sign of belonging)?
- Do they show up for each other in crisis?
- Are people moving from isolated to connected?
- Stories of transformed loneliness into community
Common Community Mistakes
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Over-Programming
- Filling calendar leaves no space for organic connection
- Exhaustion kills community
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Forced Interaction
- Icebreakers and name games feel inauthentic to Gen Z
- Let relationships develop naturally within structured contexts
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No Follow-Up
- First-time visitors never contacted
- People slip through cracks
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Cliques and Insiders
- Existing friend groups exclude newcomers
- Insider language and jokes
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Only Large Groups
- Depth requires small groups
- Can’t build authentic relationships with 50+ people
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Ignoring Singles
- Couples and families socialize; singles left out
- No intentional inclusion
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No Clear Pathway
- “Come join us!” but no next step
- Unclear how to move from visitor to member to community
APPENDIX: Implementation Resources
A. Listening Tour Interview Questions
Many successful ministries begin with a “listening tour”—interviewing 15-20 young adults (both churched and unchurched) to understand their needs, barriers, and desires. These questions provide a framework:
About Church Experience:
- What has been your experience with church in your 20s/30s?
- If you’re not currently attending church, what keeps you away?
- If you do attend, what drew you there? What keeps you coming back?
- Have you tried young adult ministries before? What was that experience like?
About Spiritual Life:
- How would you describe your relationship with God right now?
- What do you need spiritually at this life stage?
- What questions about faith are you wrestling with?
- Where do you feel stuck or uncertain in your spiritual journey?
About Community:
- Do you feel like you have community? Where do you find it?
- What makes it hard to build deep friendships right now?
- If you could design an ideal community for your life stage, what would it look like?
- What would make you feel like you belong somewhere?
About Needs and Challenges:
- What are the biggest challenges you’re facing right now? (career, relationships, finances, identity, etc.)
- How could a church help you navigate these challenges?
- What topics would you want a young adult ministry to address?
- What would you need from a church to prioritize involvement in your busy schedule?
About Barriers:
- What keeps you from church or young adult ministry participation?
- What makes church feel irrelevant or disconnected from your life?
- When you visit a church, what makes you feel welcome? What makes you feel uncomfortable?
- What assumptions or stereotypes do you have about church?
About Contribution:
- What gifts, skills, or passions do you have that you’d like to use?
- Do you feel like churches want your contribution, or just your attendance?
- What kind of service or mission work interests you?
- If you were leading a young adult ministry, what would you do?
About Format and Programming:
- What day/time works best for you to attend gatherings?
- Do you prefer large group events, small groups, or both?
- How do you feel about online/hybrid options?
- What types of activities appeal to you? (Bible study, service projects, social events, workshops, etc.)
B. Common Implementation Obstacles and Observed Solutions
Based on research from established ministries, here are common challenges and patterns observed in addressing them:
Obstacle 1: Reaching Critical Mass
- Challenge: Need 15-25 committed core to sustain ministry, but hard to attract initial group
- Observed Solutions:
- Start with pilot program (4-6 week series) to test interest before full launch
- Recruit “launch team” of 8-10 young adults who commit to bringing friends
- Partner with neighboring churches initially for combined events
- Cast vision widely in main services to identify young adults already attending
- Consider starting with monthly large gathering until core forms
Obstacle 2: Singles/Marrieds Balance
- Challenge: Ministry attracts more of one group than other, creating imbalance
- Observed Solutions:
- Integrated approach from start (ages 22-32, all relationship statuses)
- Intentional messaging: “For young adults navigating career, relationships, identity”
- Leadership team includes both singles and marrieds
- Content addresses shared life stage challenges, not just relationship status
- Targeted affinity groups within integrated structure for specific needs
Obstacle 3: Volunteer Leadership Turnover
- Challenge: Young adults’ lives change rapidly (marriage, moves, babies) causing leadership instability
- Observed Solutions:
- Leadership teams of 4-6 (not single leaders) provide redundancy
- Recruit some leaders in 30s-40s for stability
- Develop leadership pipeline with clear succession planning
- Limit terms (1-2 years) with expectation of transition
- Staff oversight provides continuity when volunteers transition
Obstacle 4: Competing with Busy Schedules
- Challenge: Young adults overwhelmed with work, social commitments, life demands
- Observed Solutions:
- Consistency matters more than frequency—weekly rhythm builds habit
- Quality over quantity—do few things well rather than over-programming
- Clear value proposition—demonstrate ROI on time investment
- Hybrid options accommodate varying availability
- Meet people where they are—timing and location matter
Obstacle 5: Attracting Unchurched Young Adults
- Challenge: Reaching beyond church-raised young adults to secular peers
- Observed Solutions:
- Relational evangelism primary strategy (equip young adults to invite friends)
- Entry points with low barriers (one-time events, short-term series)
- Address real-life topics, not just spiritual ones
- Remove insider language and churchy culture
- Digital presence meets young adults where they’re already looking
Obstacle 6: Avoiding “Church Within a Church”
- Challenge: Young adult ministry becomes separate from main church
- Observed Solutions:
- Structural integration—reports to senior leadership, part of budget
- Encourage participation in main services and church-wide events
- Young adults serve in other ministries (children’s, tech, hospitality, etc.)
- Vision alignment—cast church’s mission in young adult ministry
- Intergenerational relationships and mentoring
- Representation in church leadership and decision-making
Obstacle 7: Financial Sustainability
- Challenge: Young adult ministry requires resources but young adults can’t fund it alone
- Observed Solutions:
- Budget from church general fund, not separate fundraising
- Treat as investment in church’s future, not expense
- Start small and scale as momentum builds
- Volunteer leadership reduces costs (but requires staff support)
- Creative use of existing spaces and resources
Obstacle 8: Demographic Realities
- Challenge: Not enough young adults in area, or life stage too transient
- Observed Solutions:
- Expand geographic reach through marketing and partnerships
- Adjust age range based on who responds (e.g., 22-35 vs. 22-28)
- Integrated approach more sustainable in low-density areas
- Digital community supplements in-person for those who move
- Focus on life stage relevance, not arbitrary age cutoffs
C. Leadership Development Pipeline
Successful young adult ministries develop leaders through clear progression. This framework helps young adults move from attendance to multiplication:
Stage 1: ATTEND (Months 1-3)
- Come to large gatherings or small groups
- Get connected to ministry
- Learn culture, values, vision
- Begin relationships
- Goal: Consistent participation
Stage 2: CONNECT (Months 3-6)
- Join small group or serve team
- Build deeper relationships
- Regular spiritual practices (prayer, Bible reading)
- Attend beyond just main events
- Goal: Integrated into community
Stage 3: GROW (Months 6-12)
- Consistent Bible study and prayer life
- Mentoring relationship
- Address sin patterns and growth areas
- Discovering gifts and calling
- Goal: Maturing disciple
Stage 4: SERVE (Months 12-18)
- Use gifts to serve ministry or church
- Find place of meaningful contribution
- Reliable and consistent in service
- Heart for others
- Goal: Active contributor
Stage 5: LEAD (Months 18-24)
- Lead small group, serve team, or ministry area
- Mentor 1-2 younger believers
- Model spiritual maturity
- Cast vision and invite others
- Goal: Multiplying disciple-maker
Stage 6: MULTIPLY (Months 24+)
- Launch new small group or initiative
- Train other leaders
- Reproduce disciples who make disciples
- Extend ministry reach
- Goal: Movement builder
Key Principles:
- Timelines are estimates—people progress at different rates
- Not everyone reaches all stages—celebrate growth at each level
- Identify and invest in high-capacity leaders early
- Provide training, resources, and support at each stage
- Clear expectations communicated upfront
- Regular check-ins and feedback
- Celebrate transitions and commissioning into new roles
Conclusion
Young adult ministry isn’t about programs—it’s about people. Creating space for authentic relationships, spiritual growth, empowerment, and purpose.
The four key areas work together:
- Attraction: Get them in the door through authentic welcome and digital presence
- Programming: Keep them engaged through meaningful gatherings and clear pathways
- Spiritual Formation: Help them grow through discipleship, mentoring, and biblical depth
- Community: Make them family through authentic relationships and belonging
For BRCC: Focus on doing a few things excellently rather than many things poorly. Start with building authentic community, and everything else will follow.
Sources
- Fuller Youth Institute: Growing Young research and resources
- Outreach Magazine: Young adult ministry articles and best practices
- Lifeway Research: Church attendance and hospitality studies
- Barna Group: Generational research on Millennials and Gen Z
- Lewis Center for Church Leadership: Strategies for reaching young adults
- Various church ministry resources and case studies